Why women should embrace more unconventional ways to climax — Back when my boyfriend and I were just getting to know each other sexually, it became apparent that he was insanely in tune with my body and mind. No matter how long you’ve been with someone, paying attention to your partner is one of the most important things you can…

Re-learning how to find fulfillment while sober — I’m nearly finished with a two-week break from booze and cannabis. I haven’t gone two weeks without alcohol since I had my tonsils removed over a year ago. Before that, I can’t remember the last time I went a single week without a drink. I set a two-week sobriety goal…

Hear straight from Blue about our sexual journey and how we fell in love — If you listen to me and my Dom, Blue, on the Kinky Cocktail Hour Podcast, let me be the first to apologize profusely for my nervous tick of saying “like” like a sex-crazed valley girl. Other than, like, that, I’m beyond THRILLED to introduce you all to the voice and…

The landscape is changing, and writers should adapt — When innovation happens in our chosen field, we can either learn new skills and adapt, or we can resist and eventually make ourselves unhireable. Consider how barber-surgeons used to treat patients with bloodletting until medical technology got a little better for us. Now, surgeons who learned how to perform procedures…

Staying in an unhappy relationship isn’t “better” for the children — I made the decision to leave my marriage after years of heavy mental work. I went to couples counseling. I gave it my best effort for longer than I should have. I think trying to make a marriage work is important, especially when children are involved. Going through my second…

Once you read it, you can’t unread it — I had no clue what the term knotting meant in erotica. Not until I read all about it — in painfully exquisite detail — for an audiobook I was hired to record. The book is called Lucifer’s Assistant by Taylor Schafer. It’s about a woman who dies unexpectedly, goes to…

Navigating sex & relationships in a digital world — Sex, Relationships, and So Much More Hi! I’m Holly Bradshaw. You may remember me from such platforms as Medium, Twitter, Instagram, Spotify, or Audible. I’m a sex & relationships writer by trade. ❤️ I’m also a podcaster and audiobook narrator. …

Evidence links fitness to deeper intimacy — My partner is body positive. He’s extra body positive when it comes to me. He loves my curves. He’s aroused by looking and feeling every inch of me, and that includes the folds on my belly. He shows his admiration for me several times a week. …

Our divorces aren’t finalized and commitment scares me — Am I crazy? I don’t think I’m crazy. I’m a writer. That’s my full-time job. It’s also my passion. If I were losing it, I’d definitely feel an urgent need to write about that. Because writing’s not just my profession — it’s a way to process my feelings. …